I wanna live mum.....

Being an Indian, I love my country as anyone else does. The vast diversity and harmony among the people no matter how tough the political and economical scenarios may seem inspires me and many people around the world. Its awe inspiring to see the youth today trying to combat all the possible loop holes coming in the path of the development of the country.

No matter how educated the people all around may seem, no matter how developed the country may be, there is one short coming, one social stigma that the country and the society has been trying to fight since time immemorial.

The Female Infanticide.

The second the cry of a female child is heard in some houses, the family members stoop down to the extent of hiding their faces, that a female child has been born into their family of engineers and doctors. The most saddening part of this that even well educated people who give their hours and hours of hard works over spreading the awareness and the importance of female child are also involved in this substandard act. Female infanticide is not just an atrocity, its an abomination. This country of ours manages to kill 10 million girls in 20 years! And the whole blame goes to the mother who bore the child in her womb for nine months. Was it her fault that the sperm that fertilized that particular ovum was "X"?! Biologically and scientifically and logically it is the man's fault that a girl has been born in the family. Then why the hell is the mother beaten up or burnt alive for giving birth to a girl? Why dun people do the same to the same to the father instead?

Cm'on people, its high time that people start using their grey matter. Start giving women their rights. Start giving them a chance to prove themselves!
Even after reaching the Everest, even after having the posts of the most powerful leaders of all the times, even after women are still underestimated with the thought that they cant compete with men in any aspect and hence the best solution to this is taking away their lives!? Why do people forget that it was a woman who got them too into this planet. Try imagining a day without a single woman or a girl on this planet...

Things have come down to an extent that if a girl is asked to be reborn as woman in this country, she would love to be one yet again, but would rather wait for several centuries before humanity learns to treat them as equals. Just because she cant speak doesn't mean that you can kill her! All such narrow minded people out there, just imagine had your mum been aborted, where would have you been? A single lady manages to keep all her relations, manages to keep all of them happy. She is a mother, a daughter, a wife, a sister, a friend and yet still manages to keep everyone contended.

As Adolf Hitler said, its high time that we allow and encourage women as stupid and imaginable and then denounce men as "faggots" and "misogynists", if they dare to criticize women's stupidity!

Some life lessons that must be taught in School...

My brother had once sent me a video based on life lessons. Would love to share with all of you..!

• Well first things first. Life isn't fair. Get used to it.
• If it doesn't take to kill you. Then it really does make you stronger.
• Miracles usually happens when you ain't looking.
• When in doubt, just take the first step.
• Over prepare then go with the flow.
• Everything ever created, started with a dream. So dream big.
• When faced with a problem, ask yourself. "Will this really matter five years from now?"
• However good or bad a situation is. IT.WILL.CHANGE.
• Take a deep breath, it really does calm the mind.
• Frankly speaking, if ever we threw all our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's we would definitely take back ours immediately.
• Make peace with your past. It shouldn't ruin your present.
• Its never late to have a happy childhood. Start NOW!
• Say these words frequently to people whom you love, " I'm sorry. I was wrong. Please forgive me."
• You job or work would never look after you when you are ill. So stay in touch with people whom you love and who love you too.
• Never ever compare yourself with others. You have no idea absolutely what their journey is all about.
• Envy is a waste of time. You already have what you need.
• People who talk shit behind your back actually envy what you have. Don't give them a damn.
• What others think of you is none of your business.
• Life is too short spending it hating someone.
• Don't take yourself so seriously. No one does.
• You really don't need to win every argument. Sometimes its just better to agree to disagree.
• Time really does heal everything. So give time time.
• Growing old definitely does beat the alternative of dying young.
• All that really matters is that you loved and were loved in return.

And finally yeah,

                             THE

                                       BEST

                                                  IS

                                                        YET

                                                                 TO

                                                                          COME!!

                                                                                    

Just give it a thought......

Wanna kill yourself? Imagine this. You come home from school one day. You’ve had yet another horrible day. You’re just ready to give up. So you go to your room, close the door, and take out that suicide note you’ve written and rewritten over and over and over You take out those razor blades, and cut for the very last time. You grab that bottle of pills and take them all. Laying down, holding the letter to your chest, you close your eyes for the very last time. A few hours later, your little brother knocks on your door to come tell you dinners ready. You don’t answer, so he walks in. All he sees is you laying on your bed, so he thinks you’re asleep. He tells your mom this. Your mom goes to your room to wake you up. She notices something is odd. She grabs the paper in your hand and reads it. Sobbing, she tries to wake you up. She’s screaming your name. Your brother, so confused, runs to go tell Dad that “Mommy is crying and brother won’t wake up.” Your dad runs to your room. He looks at your mom, crying, holding the letter to her chest, sitting next to your lifeless body. It hits him, what’s going on, and he screams. He screams and throws something at the wall. And then, falling to his knees, he starts to cry. Your mom crawls over to him, and they sit there, holding each other, crying. The next day at school, there’s an announcement. The principal tells everyone about your suicide. It takes a few seconds for it to sink in, and once it does, everyone goes silent. Everyone blames themselves. Your teachers think they were too hard on you. Those mean popular girls, they think of all the things they’ ve said to you. That boy that used to tease you and call you names, he can’t help but hate himself for never telling you how beautiful you really are. Your friends? They’re sobbing too, wondering how they they could never see that anything was wrong, wishing they could have helped you before it was too late. And your best friend? He’s in shock. He can’t believe it. He knew what you were going through, but he never thought it would get that bad… Bad enough for you to end it. He can’t cry, she can’t feel anything. She stands up, walks out of the classroom, and just sinks to the floor. Shaking, screaming, but no tears coming out. It’s a few days later, at your funeral. The whole town came. Everyone knew you, that girl with the bright smile and bubbly personality. The one that was always there for them, the shoulder to cry on. Lots of people talk about all the good memories they had with you, there were a lot. Everyone’s crying, your little brother still doesn’t know you killed yourself, he’s too young. Your parents just said you died. It hurts him, a lot. You were his big brother, you were supposed to always be there for him. Your best friend, he stays strong through the entire service, but as soon as they start lowering your casket into the ground, he just loses it. He cries and cries and doesn’t stop for days. It’s two years later. The whole school talks to a counselor/therapist at least once a week. Your teachers all quit their job. Those mean girls have eating disorders now. That boy that used to tease you cuts himself. Your friends all go into depression. Your best friend? He tried to kill herself. He didn’t succeed like you did, but she tried…your brother? He finally found out the truth about your death. He self harms, he cries at night, he does exactly what you did for years leading up to your suicide. Your parents? Their marriage fell apart. Your dad became a workaholic to distract himself from your death. Your mom got diagnosed with depression and just lays in bed all day. 

People care. You may not think so, but they do. Your choices don’t just effect you. They effect everyone. 

Weirdness.....

Life is weird. People are weird.

People first get bored being children. they long to grow up. But when they finally do, they long to be kids again. People work all the life, not caring about their health ;then in the later part of their life, spend all their hard earned money to restore their health. People worry only about their future day in and day out, forgetting their present. And such people just end up living neither in the past nor in the future. People live as though they will never bid farewell to this temporary rat trap world. And they die as though, they never lived in this world. Pathetic!

Why don't people just understand that they cannot make anyone love them! That they can only try to be a person who can be loved and let themselves be loved. And to not compare themselves to others. They are made special, unique, different from the others. Why don't they understand that just shouting peace wouldn't help! We gotta work together for it. We should learn how to forgive by practicing forgiveness.Why do people fail to realize that it takes only seconds and just a word to give a profound wounds to someone he/she loves and it can take ages to heal them. Why don't people understand that money is not everything and a rich person doesn't always have everything or who has the most. But in fact a rich person is just the one who needs the least. Why don't people realize that there are many people around them who love them dearly; may be not not the way they want but not necessarily meaning that they don't with everything they have. And the fact that they ain't just able to show them out or express them out. Its high time that people realize that just because the person in front of you doesn't appreciate your ideas or views isn't because he/she doesn't like it. But in fact many a times it happens that two people look at exactly the same thing but still manage to see differently.

And most of all, just forgiving others isn't always what is important. Sometimes what is more important is to forgive oneself. Have faith. Breathe. Let it go. Mistakes do happen. What are we humans for?

And finally, always remember that there is one God who is all watching, all knowing, all caring, Who knows even the deepest secrets of yours. Who has the idea of each pain you are undergoing through. He knows what is better for you and what is not. If your prayers ain't being answered then keep calm and have faith. Probably that thing you are asking for isn't something that is good for you at all. May even prove be fatal to you. Probably you deserve something way better. Always remember when God takes something form your which you loved dearly, its just that He is emptying your hands to give something better, something that you must have never imagined. After all, God tests the bravest of His soldiers with the toughest of the challenges.

Take each problem and happiness in your life as test. Live, love and enjoy life. It's too short to keep grudges.

Hence justified the title of my blog too ;)

Don't wait....Just DO IT! You never know.........

As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant.

It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.

Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners... he is a joy to be around.."

His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."

His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."

Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper That he got from a grocery bag Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume.. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left, she cried for at least an hour.

On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets.."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling* her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer.... The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.

Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.

They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for* believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

(For you that don't know, Teddy Stoddard is the Dr. at Iowa Methodist Hospital in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)

Warm someone's heart today. . . pass this along. I love this story so very much, I cry every time I read it. Just try to make a difference in someone's life today? tomorrow? Just "do it".

Random acts of kindness, I think they call it?

The four letter word L-I-F-E....

Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many people you call or how many of them you have dated, or dating or haven't dated at all. It's not about whom you've kissed, which sport you play, which girl or guy likes you. It's not about which task you've pending, whom you've got to meet next, whom you've you've chatted, how many statuses you've uploaded or never did. Its not about which brand do you use, which shoes you wear, which color hair you have or which skin color you show, or how many clothes you have. It's not about which college or school has accepted you either. Life isn't about how big your friend circle is or how many friends appreciate you or even ever did. Life isn't about figuring other's life and their problems and their short comings. Life isn't just about that!

But in fact, life is about whom you love and whom you hurt. It's all about how you feel about yourself, about how much you realize as to how special you are. It's about love, faith, compassion and happiness. It's about sticking up with your friends and replacing your hatred with love, no matter how tough it gets to be. Life is about overcoming ignorance, avoiding jealousy and building confidence. It's about what you say and how much you mean them. It's about seeing the people as to what they are and not what they have or even how much for that matter. And most of all, it's about touching the lives of other people around you in a manner that must have never been achieved otherwise. It's about loving others for their one good, no matter how many bad must be there in them. Life is about putting a smile even during the darkest hours of the life. Cm'on, after all the sun rises only after the darkest hours of the night. Right?

~Fareeha Arshad

When I found the key to success, somebody did manage to change the locks!

Marry the right person. I tell you, this one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

Work at something that you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent. Most of us from middle class family. And I agree to most of us, having material landmarks is a big achievement. Yeah, its not bad to dream and work on getting them either. But frankly speaking, it shouldn't become the purpose of life altogether. If that was the case, Mukesh Ambani Sir would never turn up for his work. Imran Khan would stay at home and not dance any more. Steve Jobs wouldn't work hard just to make a better iPhone, as he would have Pixar for billions of dollars. Think guys, why do they do it? What makes them come for work everyday? They do so only because it makes them happy. Just getting better from current levels feels great. They don't do it only for money. Cm'on you can't imagine Salman Khan taking the place of Sachin Tendulkar or for that matter Karan Kundra taking the place of Bill Gates. People are born with their talent and they feel great about just doing that! You can feel safe and special only in your skin, I guarantee you about that!

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. You really gotta agree to one fact, no matter how cheerful the person in front of you may seem, its not always that case. More often than quite not, that person is into deeper pain than you can even imagine. Never underestimate anyone's current situations and problems. No one under the sun is tension free. Everyone has their pains to life to deal with. They have life full of chaos to overcome but still they do manage to put a smile on the face. That one is a real winner.

Become the most positive and enthusiast person you ever came across. It helps, trust me it does! I know it's not easy when you have millions of problems in every field of your life, but as it is the world has enough pessimists. Sharing a positive thought with the people around does affect your life too. It makes you too feel happier and more cheerful. I agree, there are times when the people around turn the things around that you feel the one at fault, you start blaming yourself for everything and current situations, feel guilty and start apologizing for stuffs that you must have never done..Relax!! Breathe in and breathe out. Think. Some people can't just bare how awesome you are. Stop being a pessimist. People come and people. Their job is to say and your job is to listen. Let it go. Chuck 'em. Be happy and try spreading happiness.

If life gives 10 reasons for you to cry. Give life 100s of reasons to smile. Did you ever think you have at least of square meals per day while there are billions of babies and children dying out of hunger? Did you ever think while you are starving yourself to loose weight, there are people who are dying out of starvation not because they want to loose weight but because they have no access to any meal for weeks! A mother has to think and over think to breast feed which child while the other just....closes the eyes forever.

Think! At the very moment, there is a child going to bed hungry. A woman is being tortured and raped. Someone is on the death bed and regretting some of the deeds of his/her lifetime. People are having their houses bombed. Kids crying, running after the dead bodies of their parents....Unimaginable! 

Guys, learn to thank your present situations. Learn to thank God for everything that He has given you, many of which you can't deny.

And lastly I would like to say, be bold and courageous. Take your chance. Go behind every possible opportunity as the only one. Because when you will look behind on your life, there will be more things that you would regret as of not doing than those which you already did. What is done is done! It's a past. Remember, no amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of worry can ever change the future. 

Learn to live again. Love again. And be yourself again. Things happen. I agree, there are ups and downs, Cm'on that is how it's supposed to be! Life is like a heart beat. If there are no ups and downs, what is the point? The person just passes away. Try to understand, that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but rather on the relationships with the people whom you love and respect. Learn to forgive people around you and most importantly, learn to forgive your own self.

I would like to conclude my article with a short story. Once I noticed a street dog outside my house being teased away by the neighborhood kids as he hunted for scraps of food. Nobody loved him. It would literally make no difference if he did not exist. Yet the dog wasn't trotting of to the grocery shop or something. He was only trying to figure out his strategy for his next meal. And when he was full, he merely curled up in a corner with one eye open, not giving a damn to the world. That is the natures way of protecting the animals. Their way of surviving and living and most of all being happy.

 If the street dogs don't give up, then there seems no reason why we, the smart species should? Make sense right?


~Fareeha Arshad