I wanna live mum.....

Being an Indian, I love my country as anyone else does. The vast diversity and harmony among the people no matter how tough the political and economical scenarios may seem inspires me and many people around the world. Its awe inspiring to see the youth today trying to combat all the possible loop holes coming in the path of the development of the country.

No matter how educated the people all around may seem, no matter how developed the country may be, there is one short coming, one social stigma that the country and the society has been trying to fight since time immemorial.

The Female Infanticide.

The second the cry of a female child is heard in some houses, the family members stoop down to the extent of hiding their faces, that a female child has been born into their family of engineers and doctors. The most saddening part of this that even well educated people who give their hours and hours of hard works over spreading the awareness and the importance of female child are also involved in this substandard act. Female infanticide is not just an atrocity, its an abomination. This country of ours manages to kill 10 million girls in 20 years! And the whole blame goes to the mother who bore the child in her womb for nine months. Was it her fault that the sperm that fertilized that particular ovum was "X"?! Biologically and scientifically and logically it is the man's fault that a girl has been born in the family. Then why the hell is the mother beaten up or burnt alive for giving birth to a girl? Why dun people do the same to the same to the father instead?

Cm'on people, its high time that people start using their grey matter. Start giving women their rights. Start giving them a chance to prove themselves!
Even after reaching the Everest, even after having the posts of the most powerful leaders of all the times, even after women are still underestimated with the thought that they cant compete with men in any aspect and hence the best solution to this is taking away their lives!? Why do people forget that it was a woman who got them too into this planet. Try imagining a day without a single woman or a girl on this planet...

Things have come down to an extent that if a girl is asked to be reborn as woman in this country, she would love to be one yet again, but would rather wait for several centuries before humanity learns to treat them as equals. Just because she cant speak doesn't mean that you can kill her! All such narrow minded people out there, just imagine had your mum been aborted, where would have you been? A single lady manages to keep all her relations, manages to keep all of them happy. She is a mother, a daughter, a wife, a sister, a friend and yet still manages to keep everyone contended.

As Adolf Hitler said, its high time that we allow and encourage women as stupid and imaginable and then denounce men as "faggots" and "misogynists", if they dare to criticize women's stupidity!

Some life lessons that must be taught in School...

My brother had once sent me a video based on life lessons. Would love to share with all of you..!

• Well first things first. Life isn't fair. Get used to it.
• If it doesn't take to kill you. Then it really does make you stronger.
• Miracles usually happens when you ain't looking.
• When in doubt, just take the first step.
• Over prepare then go with the flow.
• Everything ever created, started with a dream. So dream big.
• When faced with a problem, ask yourself. "Will this really matter five years from now?"
• However good or bad a situation is. IT.WILL.CHANGE.
• Take a deep breath, it really does calm the mind.
• Frankly speaking, if ever we threw all our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's we would definitely take back ours immediately.
• Make peace with your past. It shouldn't ruin your present.
• Its never late to have a happy childhood. Start NOW!
• Say these words frequently to people whom you love, " I'm sorry. I was wrong. Please forgive me."
• You job or work would never look after you when you are ill. So stay in touch with people whom you love and who love you too.
• Never ever compare yourself with others. You have no idea absolutely what their journey is all about.
• Envy is a waste of time. You already have what you need.
• People who talk shit behind your back actually envy what you have. Don't give them a damn.
• What others think of you is none of your business.
• Life is too short spending it hating someone.
• Don't take yourself so seriously. No one does.
• You really don't need to win every argument. Sometimes its just better to agree to disagree.
• Time really does heal everything. So give time time.
• Growing old definitely does beat the alternative of dying young.
• All that really matters is that you loved and were loved in return.

And finally yeah,

                             THE

                                       BEST

                                                  IS

                                                        YET

                                                                 TO

                                                                          COME!!

                                                                                    

Just give it a thought......

Wanna kill yourself? Imagine this. You come home from school one day. You’ve had yet another horrible day. You’re just ready to give up. So you go to your room, close the door, and take out that suicide note you’ve written and rewritten over and over and over You take out those razor blades, and cut for the very last time. You grab that bottle of pills and take them all. Laying down, holding the letter to your chest, you close your eyes for the very last time. A few hours later, your little brother knocks on your door to come tell you dinners ready. You don’t answer, so he walks in. All he sees is you laying on your bed, so he thinks you’re asleep. He tells your mom this. Your mom goes to your room to wake you up. She notices something is odd. She grabs the paper in your hand and reads it. Sobbing, she tries to wake you up. She’s screaming your name. Your brother, so confused, runs to go tell Dad that “Mommy is crying and brother won’t wake up.” Your dad runs to your room. He looks at your mom, crying, holding the letter to her chest, sitting next to your lifeless body. It hits him, what’s going on, and he screams. He screams and throws something at the wall. And then, falling to his knees, he starts to cry. Your mom crawls over to him, and they sit there, holding each other, crying. The next day at school, there’s an announcement. The principal tells everyone about your suicide. It takes a few seconds for it to sink in, and once it does, everyone goes silent. Everyone blames themselves. Your teachers think they were too hard on you. Those mean popular girls, they think of all the things they’ ve said to you. That boy that used to tease you and call you names, he can’t help but hate himself for never telling you how beautiful you really are. Your friends? They’re sobbing too, wondering how they they could never see that anything was wrong, wishing they could have helped you before it was too late. And your best friend? He’s in shock. He can’t believe it. He knew what you were going through, but he never thought it would get that bad… Bad enough for you to end it. He can’t cry, she can’t feel anything. She stands up, walks out of the classroom, and just sinks to the floor. Shaking, screaming, but no tears coming out. It’s a few days later, at your funeral. The whole town came. Everyone knew you, that girl with the bright smile and bubbly personality. The one that was always there for them, the shoulder to cry on. Lots of people talk about all the good memories they had with you, there were a lot. Everyone’s crying, your little brother still doesn’t know you killed yourself, he’s too young. Your parents just said you died. It hurts him, a lot. You were his big brother, you were supposed to always be there for him. Your best friend, he stays strong through the entire service, but as soon as they start lowering your casket into the ground, he just loses it. He cries and cries and doesn’t stop for days. It’s two years later. The whole school talks to a counselor/therapist at least once a week. Your teachers all quit their job. Those mean girls have eating disorders now. That boy that used to tease you cuts himself. Your friends all go into depression. Your best friend? He tried to kill herself. He didn’t succeed like you did, but she tried…your brother? He finally found out the truth about your death. He self harms, he cries at night, he does exactly what you did for years leading up to your suicide. Your parents? Their marriage fell apart. Your dad became a workaholic to distract himself from your death. Your mom got diagnosed with depression and just lays in bed all day. 

People care. You may not think so, but they do. Your choices don’t just effect you. They effect everyone. 

Weirdness.....

Life is weird. People are weird.

People first get bored being children. they long to grow up. But when they finally do, they long to be kids again. People work all the life, not caring about their health ;then in the later part of their life, spend all their hard earned money to restore their health. People worry only about their future day in and day out, forgetting their present. And such people just end up living neither in the past nor in the future. People live as though they will never bid farewell to this temporary rat trap world. And they die as though, they never lived in this world. Pathetic!

Why don't people just understand that they cannot make anyone love them! That they can only try to be a person who can be loved and let themselves be loved. And to not compare themselves to others. They are made special, unique, different from the others. Why don't they understand that just shouting peace wouldn't help! We gotta work together for it. We should learn how to forgive by practicing forgiveness.Why do people fail to realize that it takes only seconds and just a word to give a profound wounds to someone he/she loves and it can take ages to heal them. Why don't people understand that money is not everything and a rich person doesn't always have everything or who has the most. But in fact a rich person is just the one who needs the least. Why don't people realize that there are many people around them who love them dearly; may be not not the way they want but not necessarily meaning that they don't with everything they have. And the fact that they ain't just able to show them out or express them out. Its high time that people realize that just because the person in front of you doesn't appreciate your ideas or views isn't because he/she doesn't like it. But in fact many a times it happens that two people look at exactly the same thing but still manage to see differently.

And most of all, just forgiving others isn't always what is important. Sometimes what is more important is to forgive oneself. Have faith. Breathe. Let it go. Mistakes do happen. What are we humans for?

And finally, always remember that there is one God who is all watching, all knowing, all caring, Who knows even the deepest secrets of yours. Who has the idea of each pain you are undergoing through. He knows what is better for you and what is not. If your prayers ain't being answered then keep calm and have faith. Probably that thing you are asking for isn't something that is good for you at all. May even prove be fatal to you. Probably you deserve something way better. Always remember when God takes something form your which you loved dearly, its just that He is emptying your hands to give something better, something that you must have never imagined. After all, God tests the bravest of His soldiers with the toughest of the challenges.

Take each problem and happiness in your life as test. Live, love and enjoy life. It's too short to keep grudges.

Hence justified the title of my blog too ;)

Don't wait....Just DO IT! You never know.........

As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant.

It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.

Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners... he is a joy to be around.."

His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."

His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."

Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper That he got from a grocery bag Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume.. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left, she cried for at least an hour.

On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets.."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling* her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer.... The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.

Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.

They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for* believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

(For you that don't know, Teddy Stoddard is the Dr. at Iowa Methodist Hospital in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)

Warm someone's heart today. . . pass this along. I love this story so very much, I cry every time I read it. Just try to make a difference in someone's life today? tomorrow? Just "do it".

Random acts of kindness, I think they call it?

The four letter word L-I-F-E....

Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many people you call or how many of them you have dated, or dating or haven't dated at all. It's not about whom you've kissed, which sport you play, which girl or guy likes you. It's not about which task you've pending, whom you've got to meet next, whom you've you've chatted, how many statuses you've uploaded or never did. Its not about which brand do you use, which shoes you wear, which color hair you have or which skin color you show, or how many clothes you have. It's not about which college or school has accepted you either. Life isn't about how big your friend circle is or how many friends appreciate you or even ever did. Life isn't about figuring other's life and their problems and their short comings. Life isn't just about that!

But in fact, life is about whom you love and whom you hurt. It's all about how you feel about yourself, about how much you realize as to how special you are. It's about love, faith, compassion and happiness. It's about sticking up with your friends and replacing your hatred with love, no matter how tough it gets to be. Life is about overcoming ignorance, avoiding jealousy and building confidence. It's about what you say and how much you mean them. It's about seeing the people as to what they are and not what they have or even how much for that matter. And most of all, it's about touching the lives of other people around you in a manner that must have never been achieved otherwise. It's about loving others for their one good, no matter how many bad must be there in them. Life is about putting a smile even during the darkest hours of the life. Cm'on, after all the sun rises only after the darkest hours of the night. Right?

~Fareeha Arshad

When I found the key to success, somebody did manage to change the locks!

Marry the right person. I tell you, this one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

Work at something that you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent. Most of us from middle class family. And I agree to most of us, having material landmarks is a big achievement. Yeah, its not bad to dream and work on getting them either. But frankly speaking, it shouldn't become the purpose of life altogether. If that was the case, Mukesh Ambani Sir would never turn up for his work. Imran Khan would stay at home and not dance any more. Steve Jobs wouldn't work hard just to make a better iPhone, as he would have Pixar for billions of dollars. Think guys, why do they do it? What makes them come for work everyday? They do so only because it makes them happy. Just getting better from current levels feels great. They don't do it only for money. Cm'on you can't imagine Salman Khan taking the place of Sachin Tendulkar or for that matter Karan Kundra taking the place of Bill Gates. People are born with their talent and they feel great about just doing that! You can feel safe and special only in your skin, I guarantee you about that!

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. You really gotta agree to one fact, no matter how cheerful the person in front of you may seem, its not always that case. More often than quite not, that person is into deeper pain than you can even imagine. Never underestimate anyone's current situations and problems. No one under the sun is tension free. Everyone has their pains to life to deal with. They have life full of chaos to overcome but still they do manage to put a smile on the face. That one is a real winner.

Become the most positive and enthusiast person you ever came across. It helps, trust me it does! I know it's not easy when you have millions of problems in every field of your life, but as it is the world has enough pessimists. Sharing a positive thought with the people around does affect your life too. It makes you too feel happier and more cheerful. I agree, there are times when the people around turn the things around that you feel the one at fault, you start blaming yourself for everything and current situations, feel guilty and start apologizing for stuffs that you must have never done..Relax!! Breathe in and breathe out. Think. Some people can't just bare how awesome you are. Stop being a pessimist. People come and people. Their job is to say and your job is to listen. Let it go. Chuck 'em. Be happy and try spreading happiness.

If life gives 10 reasons for you to cry. Give life 100s of reasons to smile. Did you ever think you have at least of square meals per day while there are billions of babies and children dying out of hunger? Did you ever think while you are starving yourself to loose weight, there are people who are dying out of starvation not because they want to loose weight but because they have no access to any meal for weeks! A mother has to think and over think to breast feed which child while the other just....closes the eyes forever.

Think! At the very moment, there is a child going to bed hungry. A woman is being tortured and raped. Someone is on the death bed and regretting some of the deeds of his/her lifetime. People are having their houses bombed. Kids crying, running after the dead bodies of their parents....Unimaginable! 

Guys, learn to thank your present situations. Learn to thank God for everything that He has given you, many of which you can't deny.

And lastly I would like to say, be bold and courageous. Take your chance. Go behind every possible opportunity as the only one. Because when you will look behind on your life, there will be more things that you would regret as of not doing than those which you already did. What is done is done! It's a past. Remember, no amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of worry can ever change the future. 

Learn to live again. Love again. And be yourself again. Things happen. I agree, there are ups and downs, Cm'on that is how it's supposed to be! Life is like a heart beat. If there are no ups and downs, what is the point? The person just passes away. Try to understand, that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but rather on the relationships with the people whom you love and respect. Learn to forgive people around you and most importantly, learn to forgive your own self.

I would like to conclude my article with a short story. Once I noticed a street dog outside my house being teased away by the neighborhood kids as he hunted for scraps of food. Nobody loved him. It would literally make no difference if he did not exist. Yet the dog wasn't trotting of to the grocery shop or something. He was only trying to figure out his strategy for his next meal. And when he was full, he merely curled up in a corner with one eye open, not giving a damn to the world. That is the natures way of protecting the animals. Their way of surviving and living and most of all being happy.

 If the street dogs don't give up, then there seems no reason why we, the smart species should? Make sense right?


~Fareeha Arshad

Happy Mother's Day.....Each Day is a Mother's day! :)

A CHILD'S ANGEL

Once upon a time there was a child ready to be born. So one day he asked God:

"They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?"

"Among the many angels, I chose one for you. She will be waiting for you and will take care of you."

"But tell me, here in Heaven, I don't do anything else but sing and smile, that's enough for me to be happy."

"Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you every day. And you will feel your angel's love and be happy."

"And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me, if I don't know the language that men talk?"

"Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak."

"And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?"

"Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray."

"I've heard that on earth there are bad men. Who will protect me?"

"Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life."

"But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore."

"Your angel will always talk to you about me and will teach you the way for you to come back to me, even though I will always be next to you."

At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from earth could already be heard, and the child in a hurry asked softly:

"Oh God, if I am about to leave now, please tell me my angel's name."

"Your angel's name is of no importance, you will call your angel,
"Mommy."

Ya do explain me when u say, "I want a relationship with you"....

What is a relationship? 
Wait, is the word "relationship" even in the dictionary anymore? Are relationships even a thing anymore? Does anyone even care anymore to get to know someone? 
It actually makes me so sad that we as a society have forgotten what relationships actually stood for in the past. Now a days, we go to clubs, get drunk, hook up with people we have never met in our life. Funny thing is, no one sees anything wrong with that because the media has brainwashed us to believe that "sex" is a great thing. Every movie you watch, hollywood or bollywood, women are displayed as objects. This happens even more in the music industry. Every bollywood song consists of displaying women as a piece of meat that dances for your pleasure. All these singers, such as Lil wayne, Chris brown, Drake, they all have half naked women in all their music videos but WE don't see anything wrong with it because we are brainwashed to believe that this is how our society actually works. All these little factors have a huge impact on the relationship aspect that I am going to talk about. Lets look at some facts, as years are passing by, the divorce rates in almost all countries are just increasing extremely high because relationships are starting to lose their value. 
Remember back in the days how a guy would actually take a girl out for a date? That is a how a real gentleman would do something but that is so rare now a days. The main reason of this is also through social media such as facebook and twitter. It is so easy to get in touch with people through these social networks and so easy to lie to someone just to hook up with them. Whenever someone is in a relationship, we still feel that the attention we get from facebook or twitter is more important than the attention we get from our significant other. Facebook and Twitter are like two fake crowds of people that make us believe that we can easily find someone else for a relationship. Instead of trying to fix our problems with our partner, we just break the relationship and move on. 
The only reason why most of our parents are still together is because they lived through a non-brainwashing generation. They knew that whenever a problem occurred, they would talk to each other and not just call off the relationship.

 At the rate of how bad our society is becoming regarding relationships, I doubt marriages will even exist in the future.

Infact, why even date without the intentions of marriage? I know we all r young n etc. But all people do is date and just eventually break up. Guys! Get a life!...

If people can use "LOL" without even laughing, surely they can use "I love you" without even loving so don't be fooled...

That Indeed Is Life ;)

Never Share Ur Secrets with Anyone.
This can be Self-Destructive,
Perhaps the most Important Advice in Life.

 Never Tell Ur Problems to Anyone.
20% will not Care
&
80% will be Glad that U have Them.

Life is similar to Boxing Game.
Defeat is not Declared when U Fall Down.
It is Declared when U Refuse to Get Up.

Always WRONG PERSONS Teach the
RIGHT LESSONS in Life.
That is called LIFE EXPERIENCE.

Faith is taking the 1st Step,
even when U haven't see the whole Staircase.

 Keep Ur Face to the Sun,
& U will not see the Shadow.

Everything is Valuable only at 2 Times:
1: Before Getting It.
&
2: After Losing It.

 2 Things brings Happiness & Success
in Life:
1: The way U Manage
when U have Nothing.
&
2: The way U Behave
when U have Everything.

 2 Places are most Valuable in the World:
1: The NICEST Place is to be in
Someone's Thoughts.
&
2: The SAFEST Place is to be in
Someone's Prayers.

 'FEAR' has 2 Meanings:
1: Forget Everything & Run.
&
2: Face Everything & Rejoice.
Choice is Ours.

ATTITUDE at its Best:
"My BACK is not a VOICE MAIL.
Kindly Say whatever U have by FACING ME".

What is SUCCESS ?
SUCCESS is, when Ur Photo's are Uploaded on 'GOOGLE' instead of FACEBOOK.

 'EGO' is the only Requirement
to Destroy any Relationship.
Be a Bigger Person,
Skip the 'E' & let it 'GO'.

 Do U know why God did not give Us
the Gift to Read Other's Mind ?
So that, We could have the Chances to
'TRUST' & Privilege to be 'TRUSTED'.

 As long as We do not Forgive People
who have Hurt Us,
They Occupy a 'RENT-FREE-SPACE'
in our Mind.

 Always keep Hoping for Good.
Keep a Green Tree in Ur Heart.
The Singing Birds will Automatically come.

If U Walk the Way guided by Humans,
U will find a Hopeless End.
BUT
If U will Walk the Way guided by GOD,
U will find Endless Hopes & Opportunities.

GOD always likes to know again & again
what U want.
It is not that He Forgets Ur
Dreams & Prayers,
But He Loves to Check Ur Passion
towards Ur Desire.
That is why He wants U to have Ur
'QUIET TIME' which We call as
'PRAYER TIME' with Him everyday.

 I asked GOD: If everything is already Written in Destiny,
then why should I Pray ?
GOD Smiled & said: I have also Written
'CONDITIONS APPLY'.

 Empty Pockets Teach

Millons of Things in Life

BUT

Full Pockets Spoil Us in Million Ways.

TRUST is like a Sticker.
Once it is Removed, it may Stick again,
but not as Strong as it Holds
when U First Applied.

 Always take Care of RELATIONS.
Thats why they say, when U are in Doubt,
'SILENCE' is the Best Policy.

 Never Win People with Arguments.
rather Defeat Them with Ur Smile.
Because People who always Wish to
Argue with U, cannot Bear Ur SILENCE.

 If a Drop of Water falls on a Lake,
its Identity is Lost.
BUT
If a Drop of Water falls on a Lotus Leaf,
it Shines like a Pearl.
Drop is the Same,
but the 'COMPANY' matters.

Our HOPES should be like HAIR & NAILS.
No matter how many times they get Cut,
but they never stop Growing.
That is why they say,
Always Hope for the Best,
however Bad the Situation may be.

 'MEMORIES' are always Special.
Sometimes, We Laugh by
Remembering the days We Cried.
&
Sometimes, We Cry by
Remembering the days We Laughed.
That's LIFE!! ;)

Superb Speech by Chetan Bhagat at Symbiosis...

Don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. 
Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order. There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions. Don't take life seriously. Life is not meant to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a prepaid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? …It's OK, 
Bunk few classes, score low in couple of papers, take leave from work, fall in love, fight a little with ur spouse... It's ok... We are people, not programmed devices..! 
"Don't be serious, enjoy Life as it comes"

Men vs Women...

Looking at the feedback of the previous article to write about women too, I thought why not differentiate between the two sexes based on how they react to different situations!

1. MULTI-TASKING-Women - Multiple process-Women's brain's designed to concentrate multiple task at a time.Women can Watch a TV and Talk over phone and cook. Men - Single Process-Men's brain's designed to concentrate only one work at a time. Men can not watch TV and talk over the phone at the same time. They stop the TV while Talking. They can either watch TV or talk over the phone or cook.

2. LANGUAGE-Women can easily learn many languages. But can not find solutions to problems. Men can not easily learn languages, they can easily solve problems. That's why in average a 3 years old girl has three times higher vocabulary than a 3 year old boy.

3. ANALYTICAL SKILLS-Men's brains has a lot of space for handling the analytical process. They can analyze and find the solution for a process and design a map of a building easily. But If a complex map is viewed by women, they can not understand it. Women can not understand the details of a map easily, For them it is just a dump of lines on a paper.

4. CAR DRIVING.While driving a car, mans analytical spaces are used in his brain. He can drive a car fastly. If he sees an object at long distance, immediately his brain classifies the object (bus or van or car) direction and speed of the object and he drives accordingly. Where woman take a long time to recognize the object direction/ speed. Mans single process mind stops the audio in the car (if any), then concentrates only on driving.

5. LYING-When men lie to women face to face, they get caught easily. Women's super natural brain observes facial expression 70%, body language 20% and words coming from the mouth 10%. Mens brain does not have this. Women easily lie to men face to face.So guys, do not lie face to face.

6. PROBLEMS SOLVING-If a man have a lot of problems, his brain clearly classifies the problems and puts them in individual rooms in the brain and then finds the solution one by one. You can see many guys looking at the sky for a long time. If a woman has a lot of problems, her brain can not classify the problems. she wants some one to hear that. After telling everything to a person she goes happily to bed. She does not worry about the problems being solved or not.

7. WHAT THEY WANT-Men want status, success, solutions, big process, etc... But Women want relationship, friends, family, etc...

8. UNHAPPINESS-If women are unhappy with their relations, they can not concentrate on their work. If men are unhappy with their work, they can not concentrate on the relations.

9. SPEECH-Women use indirect language in speech. But Men use direct language.

10. HANDLING EMOTION-Women talk a lot without thinking. Men act a lot without thinking.

Sentences that can change your life......

1. Never compare your weaknesses to other people's strengths.

2. Own your life, or someone will own it for you.

3. We cannot change the cards we are dealt,just how we play the hand.

4. Climb mountains not so the world can see you but so you can see the world.

5. If you accept your limitation, you go beyond them.

6. Comfort is the enemy of achievement.

7. No matter anyone says to you,you don't have to eat dinner with them,
live with them or go to bed with them.

8. If you risk nothing, you risk everything.

9. Don't give others the power to control your emotion. Those are only yours and it is only for you to manipulate.

10. Victory introduces you to the world, but defeat introduces the world to you.

11. If you don't do stupid things while you are young,you will have nothing to smile about when you are old.

12. Don't waste your time with explanation,people only hear what they want to hear.

13. Don't rest after your first victory,because if you fail the second time,more lips will be waiting to say that your first victory was just luck.

14. Everyone thinks of changing the world,but no one thinks of changing themselves.

15. The person that you will spend most time with in your life is yourself, so better try to make yourself as interesting as possible.

Life Is a Gift....

Today before you think of saying an unkind word–
think of someone who can’t speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food–
think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife–
think of someone who is crying out to God for a companion.

Today before you complain about life–
think of someone who went too early to heaven.

Before you complain about your children–
think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep–
think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive–
think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job–
think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another–
remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down–
put a smile on your face and thank God you’re alive and still around.

Life is a gift – Live it, Enjoy it, Celebrate it, and Fulfill it...

Who and what is a man?

=> A man is the most beautiful part of God's creation who starts compromising at a very tender age.

=> He sacrifices his chocolates for his sister.

=> He sacrifices his dreams for just a smile on his parents face.

=> He spends his entire pocket money on buying gifts for the girl he loves just to see her smiling.

=> He sacrifices his full youth for his wife & children by working late at night without any complain.

=> He builds their future by taking loans from banks & repaying them for lifetime.

=> He struggles a lot & still has to bear scolding from his mother, wife & boss.

=> His mother, wife & boss all try to control him.

=> His life finally ends up only by compromising for others' happiness...

Death has to come! :'(

I woke up suddenly one night and saw a strange light in my room.

The problem is that the lights are off, I saw the clock, it was 3.30 in the morning. Okay..so where is all this light coming from?

I turned around and saw something very strange..my body was half way through the wall(??)

I immediately pulled it out and saw down to see if i'm okay...this is strange, I tried to push onto the wall, but MY ARM GOES THROUGH...

I heard a sound, I turned to my brother's bed to see him sleeping. I was really scared of what was happening to me..so I tried to wake him up..but..he doesn't reply! I went to my parent's bedoom..I tried to wake up my mother and father..I just wanted somebody to react to me...but nobody did. I tried to wake my mother up again..she woke up this tme...she got up but she didn't communicate to me! She was saying "In the name of Allah, most Merciful, most Gracious" again and again..

She woke my dad up saying "get up man, I want to check up on the kids". My dad replied in disinterest.."it's not time for this, let me sleep and in shaa Allah tomorrow I'll get to that". But she was insisting so he woke up. I was THERE. I was screaming.."dad", "mum!"..nobody was replying. I held mother's clothes to grab her attention but she didnt recognise my existence. I followed her 'til she got to my bedroom. They got into the room and turned on the lights..it wasn't making any difference to me anyway because there was a strong light there. I then saw the strangest thing in my life..my OWN BODY..on my bed!! I was trembling..how can there be two of me?! how can that person look so much like me? and what is he doing on my bed?! I started hitting/slapping myself to wake up from this nightmare but it was too real to be a nightmare. Dad said "Ya-Allah, see the kids are sleeping, lets go back to bed". but mother wasn't at all confident..she went to the person sleeping in my bed and said "Ershad, wake up!.WAKE UP!" but he wouldn't reply.She tried again and again but no reply. Then I turned to see my dad tearing..today witnesses the first time in my life that I have seen my dad's tears. The place was shaking with screaming..my brother woke up.."Whats going on??!" in a very sad tone! with tears rolling down her check, mother replied "your brother's dead! Ershad is DEAD!" I went to mother and sald "please mum, dont cry..im right here look at me!" but nobody's replying to me..why?!! I turned to Allah and asked Him to wake me up from the nightmare! Quickly following my dua was a voice saying (Quran): "You were in negligance from this, so We uncovered the blinds and today your sight is (like iron)".

Suddenly two creatures held my arm..they werent human! "Leave me alone! who are you and what do you want from me?!"

"We're you're grave guards"

I said, "but Im not dead yet!, let go of me!, I can still see, hear, touch and speak..Im not dead!".

They replied with a smile: "U humans are fascinating! U think that by dying ur life ends, while in fact life on Earth is a small dream compared to the Here After; a dream that ends at your death". They started pulling me towards my grave..on the way I saw people just like me, each had two guards like mine. Some were smiling, others crying, others screaming. I asked the guards "why are they all doing that?" They replied "These people now know their fate , some were in ignorance so they.." "..so they go to HELL??!" I interrupted. They said "yes" and continued.. "and those laughing are going to Heaven.

I quickly replied: "What about me..where will i go??"

They said "U were at times a good muslim, while other times not. One day you obey Allah, the next you disobey Him. And U weren't clear with yourself and ur fate will remain so: lost". I replied, shaking; "SO! AM I GOING TO HELL?!".

They said; "Allah's mercy is so great and the journey is long". I turned to see my family carrying my dead body in a coffin..so I ran to them..I said "make duaa for me" but nobody replied. I went to my brother and warned him.."be careful with what you do in this life..don't be a fool like myself!". I was really hoping that he could hear me..the two angels (guards) tied up my soul on top of my body..I saw my relatives pouring sand over me.. at that moment I was hoping that I would be in their place..that I can turn to Allah and do as much as He wants from me that I would ask for forgiveness..for all repent my sins that angered Him, but unfortunately I couldn't. I shouted "People, don't let this life tempt you! Wake up to the truth, one day you will DIE! and you never know when..or how." I hoped for somebody to hear me but nobody there did. But YOU heard me, so save yourself. Smile to others, forgive them when you've the power to punish them. Allah forgives those that forgive others. Do your prayers regularly with an open heart. Let Allah guide ur life, not Satan. Read the Quran regularly and let the prophet (PBUH) be your role model. Work in this timed life for your salvation in an eternal one. And remember this worst-regular-sinner brother in all Ur precious and answerable prayers. And I point the above to myself just as much as I do to my friends.

Smile...Things can't be that bad ;)

Smiling is a simple task,but has an extraordinary impact.A mom’s smile reassures her child that everything is okay and that the next day would be better,a spouse’s smile makes you strong,a child’s smile can rearrange her father’s mood.

Tell me something..when was the last time you smiled at a stranger?..

Or for that matter when was the last time you smiled without a reason?…..

Only you are responsible for how your day goes…yes, ups and downs are a part of one’s life but honestly, aren’t u so much luckier than that boy on the street with a broken leg?-smile for that!

Smile because you survived another day!..

Smile because you have a home to live in with wonderful parents !

Smile because the sun is shining:P..

Smile because the world is so beautiful!!..

Smile because you are worth the happiness..

Smile for no reason at all!!..you don’t just have to smile when you get a gift.or you are exceptionally happy..

It takes only a moment..but its memory can last forever..

A smiling face looks beautiful!..i have never seen a smiling face that is not beautiful!…it lightens up your face!…shows off your glistening white teeth!....

smiling..such a simple thing to do..with such massive rewards!..go about the day with a smile on your face..smile at the people you like..smile at those you dislike!..smile at a complete stranger..smile even when life is tough and you think there is no way out..smile even if u feel you have hit rock bottom..because if you are at rock bottom,things can only get better 

Maybe your smile can make a stranger’s day!..

Smiles are contagious..you smile at someone,they smile back at you!they are happy!so,they smile at the next person they see and so on!..

Notice how sharing one smile can change your day!you day seems so much more happier.You are less irritable,more loving toward your family.

A SMILE IS THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE SOMEONE!- and the best part,its FrEe!..

So,the next time you frown about something,do think about the wrinkles that one frown would cause you!:O..

Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles. What do we live for if not to make the world less difficult for each other?
-George Eliot
Keep smiling!. :D 

Strange but true... ;)

Today's Reality:
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Big House
Small Family
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More Degrees
Less Common Sense
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Advanced Medicine
Poor Health
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Touched Moon
Neighbors Unknown
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High Income
Less peace of Mind
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High IQ
Less Emotions
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Good Knowledge
Less Wisdom
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Number of affairs
No true love
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Lot of friends on Facebook
No best friend
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More alcohol
Less water
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Lots of Human
Less Humanity
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Costly Watches
But No time..

This Pretty Girl Was Seeking A Rich Husband. The Reply She Got From A Banker Was Priceless!!!

The following is what a women posted on a dating forum seeking a rich husband:

I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here. I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.

My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you?

Among those I’ve dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit.
If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden(?), $250k annual income is not enough.

I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:

1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I’ve met a few girls who don’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)
Ms. Pretty

A philosophical reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan below:

Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor.
My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here.
From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.

Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money” : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.
However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year.

Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”.
If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term – same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”.

Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps.

signed,
J.P. Morgan CEO

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