What is a relationship?
Wait, is the word "relationship" even in the dictionary anymore? Are relationships even a thing anymore? Does anyone even care anymore to get to know someone?
It actually makes me so sad that we as a society have forgotten what relationships actually stood for in the past. Now a days, we go to clubs, get drunk, hook up with people we have never met in our life. Funny thing is, no one sees anything wrong with that because the media has brainwashed us to believe that "sex" is a great thing. Every movie you watch, hollywood or bollywood, women are displayed as objects. This happens even more in the music industry. Every bollywood song consists of displaying women as a piece of meat that dances for your pleasure. All these singers, such as Lil wayne, Chris brown, Drake, they all have half naked women in all their music videos but WE don't see anything wrong with it because we are brainwashed to believe that this is how our society actually works. All these little factors have a huge impact on the relationship aspect that I am going to talk about. Lets look at some facts, as years are passing by, the divorce rates in almost all countries are just increasing extremely high because relationships are starting to lose their value.
Remember back in the days how a guy would actually take a girl out for a date? That is a how a real gentleman would do something but that is so rare now a days. The main reason of this is also through social media such as facebook and twitter. It is so easy to get in touch with people through these social networks and so easy to lie to someone just to hook up with them. Whenever someone is in a relationship, we still feel that the attention we get from facebook or twitter is more important than the attention we get from our significant other. Facebook and Twitter are like two fake crowds of people that make us believe that we can easily find someone else for a relationship. Instead of trying to fix our problems with our partner, we just break the relationship and move on.
The only reason why most of our parents are still together is because they lived through a non-brainwashing generation. They knew that whenever a problem occurred, they would talk to each other and not just call off the relationship.
At the rate of how bad our society is becoming regarding relationships, I doubt marriages will even exist in the future.
Infact, why even date without the intentions of marriage? I know we all r young n etc. But all people do is date and just eventually break up. Guys! Get a life!...
If people can use "LOL" without even laughing, surely they can use "I love you" without even loving so don't be fooled...
Wait, is the word "relationship" even in the dictionary anymore? Are relationships even a thing anymore? Does anyone even care anymore to get to know someone?
It actually makes me so sad that we as a society have forgotten what relationships actually stood for in the past. Now a days, we go to clubs, get drunk, hook up with people we have never met in our life. Funny thing is, no one sees anything wrong with that because the media has brainwashed us to believe that "sex" is a great thing. Every movie you watch, hollywood or bollywood, women are displayed as objects. This happens even more in the music industry. Every bollywood song consists of displaying women as a piece of meat that dances for your pleasure. All these singers, such as Lil wayne, Chris brown, Drake, they all have half naked women in all their music videos but WE don't see anything wrong with it because we are brainwashed to believe that this is how our society actually works. All these little factors have a huge impact on the relationship aspect that I am going to talk about. Lets look at some facts, as years are passing by, the divorce rates in almost all countries are just increasing extremely high because relationships are starting to lose their value.
Remember back in the days how a guy would actually take a girl out for a date? That is a how a real gentleman would do something but that is so rare now a days. The main reason of this is also through social media such as facebook and twitter. It is so easy to get in touch with people through these social networks and so easy to lie to someone just to hook up with them. Whenever someone is in a relationship, we still feel that the attention we get from facebook or twitter is more important than the attention we get from our significant other. Facebook and Twitter are like two fake crowds of people that make us believe that we can easily find someone else for a relationship. Instead of trying to fix our problems with our partner, we just break the relationship and move on.
The only reason why most of our parents are still together is because they lived through a non-brainwashing generation. They knew that whenever a problem occurred, they would talk to each other and not just call off the relationship.
At the rate of how bad our society is becoming regarding relationships, I doubt marriages will even exist in the future.
Infact, why even date without the intentions of marriage? I know we all r young n etc. But all people do is date and just eventually break up. Guys! Get a life!...
If people can use "LOL" without even laughing, surely they can use "I love you" without even loving so don't be fooled...
So what's the bottom line? Guys should stop dating? or the institute of love marriage should be abolished? :P
ReplyDelete(btw try Lil Wayne's Lollipop. It's funny :D )
No if u sure u will marry then do whatever u want :-|
DeleteAnd BTW, what is Lil Wayne's Lollipop? O.o
How can you be sure that dating will result in marriage..? If it doesn't, then you're ruining a life forever.
ReplyDeleteBesides, love marriage doesn't only result after dating. True love marriage results after marriage. Because only then you see the true character of the person you are married to. When you date, you meet eachother in the best conduct and best looks. If you really love someone, why don't you meet them in your pajamas? When do you dress up in the latest suit or gown? Why do most divorce cases result after love marriage?
Islam is not against love. It just makes it more pure and real. Placing your heart and trust in your Creator, directs you to the person you deserve and is meant for you. Tell me, will you or your Creator know best of who's worthy to become your life partner?
Another logic behind parents choosing our spouses is that men have no idea what a woman thinks like. And women have no idea what a man thinks like. This is why it's always the girls dad who chooses her groom. Cause he knows what the intention of the man is and if he will be capable of taking care of his daughters need.
Tell me now, is there anything more just, pure and beautiful?
No offense. It's just my view.
Peace.
Agreed Majeedah! Well said :) :) (y) (y) Nothing can be more beautiful and pure :)
DeleteThat is what Islam teaches after all ;)
Love not a craze that ends after the marriage. Infact, it is the craze that begins with marriage in Islam.
I appreciate your views :)
And to the author of this blog, you are doing an amazing job Masha Allah! May Allah reward you for your efforts.
ReplyDeleteIt would be an honour to write an article with you some time to make the Muslim youth come under one banner to spread Deen. :)
InShaAllah :)
DeleteAnd Jazakallahu Khairun for the compliments!