The four letter word L-I-F-E....

Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many people you call or how many of them you have dated, or dating or haven't dated at all. It's not about whom you've kissed, which sport you play, which girl or guy likes you. It's not about which task you've pending, whom you've got to meet next, whom you've you've chatted, how many statuses you've uploaded or never did. Its not about which brand do you use, which shoes you wear, which color hair you have or which skin color you show, or how many clothes you have. It's not about which college or school has accepted you either. Life isn't about how big your friend circle is or how many friends appreciate you or even ever did. Life isn't about figuring other's life and their problems and their short comings. Life isn't just about that!

But in fact, life is about whom you love and whom you hurt. It's all about how you feel about yourself, about how much you realize as to how special you are. It's about love, faith, compassion and happiness. It's about sticking up with your friends and replacing your hatred with love, no matter how tough it gets to be. Life is about overcoming ignorance, avoiding jealousy and building confidence. It's about what you say and how much you mean them. It's about seeing the people as to what they are and not what they have or even how much for that matter. And most of all, it's about touching the lives of other people around you in a manner that must have never been achieved otherwise. It's about loving others for their one good, no matter how many bad must be there in them. Life is about putting a smile even during the darkest hours of the life. Cm'on, after all the sun rises only after the darkest hours of the night. Right?

~Fareeha Arshad

When I found the key to success, somebody did manage to change the locks!

Marry the right person. I tell you, this one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

Work at something that you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent. Most of us from middle class family. And I agree to most of us, having material landmarks is a big achievement. Yeah, its not bad to dream and work on getting them either. But frankly speaking, it shouldn't become the purpose of life altogether. If that was the case, Mukesh Ambani Sir would never turn up for his work. Imran Khan would stay at home and not dance any more. Steve Jobs wouldn't work hard just to make a better iPhone, as he would have Pixar for billions of dollars. Think guys, why do they do it? What makes them come for work everyday? They do so only because it makes them happy. Just getting better from current levels feels great. They don't do it only for money. Cm'on you can't imagine Salman Khan taking the place of Sachin Tendulkar or for that matter Karan Kundra taking the place of Bill Gates. People are born with their talent and they feel great about just doing that! You can feel safe and special only in your skin, I guarantee you about that!

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. You really gotta agree to one fact, no matter how cheerful the person in front of you may seem, its not always that case. More often than quite not, that person is into deeper pain than you can even imagine. Never underestimate anyone's current situations and problems. No one under the sun is tension free. Everyone has their pains to life to deal with. They have life full of chaos to overcome but still they do manage to put a smile on the face. That one is a real winner.

Become the most positive and enthusiast person you ever came across. It helps, trust me it does! I know it's not easy when you have millions of problems in every field of your life, but as it is the world has enough pessimists. Sharing a positive thought with the people around does affect your life too. It makes you too feel happier and more cheerful. I agree, there are times when the people around turn the things around that you feel the one at fault, you start blaming yourself for everything and current situations, feel guilty and start apologizing for stuffs that you must have never done..Relax!! Breathe in and breathe out. Think. Some people can't just bare how awesome you are. Stop being a pessimist. People come and people. Their job is to say and your job is to listen. Let it go. Chuck 'em. Be happy and try spreading happiness.

If life gives 10 reasons for you to cry. Give life 100s of reasons to smile. Did you ever think you have at least of square meals per day while there are billions of babies and children dying out of hunger? Did you ever think while you are starving yourself to loose weight, there are people who are dying out of starvation not because they want to loose weight but because they have no access to any meal for weeks! A mother has to think and over think to breast feed which child while the other just....closes the eyes forever.

Think! At the very moment, there is a child going to bed hungry. A woman is being tortured and raped. Someone is on the death bed and regretting some of the deeds of his/her lifetime. People are having their houses bombed. Kids crying, running after the dead bodies of their parents....Unimaginable! 

Guys, learn to thank your present situations. Learn to thank God for everything that He has given you, many of which you can't deny.

And lastly I would like to say, be bold and courageous. Take your chance. Go behind every possible opportunity as the only one. Because when you will look behind on your life, there will be more things that you would regret as of not doing than those which you already did. What is done is done! It's a past. Remember, no amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of worry can ever change the future. 

Learn to live again. Love again. And be yourself again. Things happen. I agree, there are ups and downs, Cm'on that is how it's supposed to be! Life is like a heart beat. If there are no ups and downs, what is the point? The person just passes away. Try to understand, that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but rather on the relationships with the people whom you love and respect. Learn to forgive people around you and most importantly, learn to forgive your own self.

I would like to conclude my article with a short story. Once I noticed a street dog outside my house being teased away by the neighborhood kids as he hunted for scraps of food. Nobody loved him. It would literally make no difference if he did not exist. Yet the dog wasn't trotting of to the grocery shop or something. He was only trying to figure out his strategy for his next meal. And when he was full, he merely curled up in a corner with one eye open, not giving a damn to the world. That is the natures way of protecting the animals. Their way of surviving and living and most of all being happy.

 If the street dogs don't give up, then there seems no reason why we, the smart species should? Make sense right?


~Fareeha Arshad

Happy Mother's Day.....Each Day is a Mother's day! :)

A CHILD'S ANGEL

Once upon a time there was a child ready to be born. So one day he asked God:

"They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?"

"Among the many angels, I chose one for you. She will be waiting for you and will take care of you."

"But tell me, here in Heaven, I don't do anything else but sing and smile, that's enough for me to be happy."

"Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you every day. And you will feel your angel's love and be happy."

"And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me, if I don't know the language that men talk?"

"Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak."

"And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?"

"Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray."

"I've heard that on earth there are bad men. Who will protect me?"

"Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life."

"But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore."

"Your angel will always talk to you about me and will teach you the way for you to come back to me, even though I will always be next to you."

At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from earth could already be heard, and the child in a hurry asked softly:

"Oh God, if I am about to leave now, please tell me my angel's name."

"Your angel's name is of no importance, you will call your angel,
"Mommy."

Ya do explain me when u say, "I want a relationship with you"....

What is a relationship? 
Wait, is the word "relationship" even in the dictionary anymore? Are relationships even a thing anymore? Does anyone even care anymore to get to know someone? 
It actually makes me so sad that we as a society have forgotten what relationships actually stood for in the past. Now a days, we go to clubs, get drunk, hook up with people we have never met in our life. Funny thing is, no one sees anything wrong with that because the media has brainwashed us to believe that "sex" is a great thing. Every movie you watch, hollywood or bollywood, women are displayed as objects. This happens even more in the music industry. Every bollywood song consists of displaying women as a piece of meat that dances for your pleasure. All these singers, such as Lil wayne, Chris brown, Drake, they all have half naked women in all their music videos but WE don't see anything wrong with it because we are brainwashed to believe that this is how our society actually works. All these little factors have a huge impact on the relationship aspect that I am going to talk about. Lets look at some facts, as years are passing by, the divorce rates in almost all countries are just increasing extremely high because relationships are starting to lose their value. 
Remember back in the days how a guy would actually take a girl out for a date? That is a how a real gentleman would do something but that is so rare now a days. The main reason of this is also through social media such as facebook and twitter. It is so easy to get in touch with people through these social networks and so easy to lie to someone just to hook up with them. Whenever someone is in a relationship, we still feel that the attention we get from facebook or twitter is more important than the attention we get from our significant other. Facebook and Twitter are like two fake crowds of people that make us believe that we can easily find someone else for a relationship. Instead of trying to fix our problems with our partner, we just break the relationship and move on. 
The only reason why most of our parents are still together is because they lived through a non-brainwashing generation. They knew that whenever a problem occurred, they would talk to each other and not just call off the relationship.

 At the rate of how bad our society is becoming regarding relationships, I doubt marriages will even exist in the future.

Infact, why even date without the intentions of marriage? I know we all r young n etc. But all people do is date and just eventually break up. Guys! Get a life!...

If people can use "LOL" without even laughing, surely they can use "I love you" without even loving so don't be fooled...

That Indeed Is Life ;)

Never Share Ur Secrets with Anyone.
This can be Self-Destructive,
Perhaps the most Important Advice in Life.

 Never Tell Ur Problems to Anyone.
20% will not Care
&
80% will be Glad that U have Them.

Life is similar to Boxing Game.
Defeat is not Declared when U Fall Down.
It is Declared when U Refuse to Get Up.

Always WRONG PERSONS Teach the
RIGHT LESSONS in Life.
That is called LIFE EXPERIENCE.

Faith is taking the 1st Step,
even when U haven't see the whole Staircase.

 Keep Ur Face to the Sun,
& U will not see the Shadow.

Everything is Valuable only at 2 Times:
1: Before Getting It.
&
2: After Losing It.

 2 Things brings Happiness & Success
in Life:
1: The way U Manage
when U have Nothing.
&
2: The way U Behave
when U have Everything.

 2 Places are most Valuable in the World:
1: The NICEST Place is to be in
Someone's Thoughts.
&
2: The SAFEST Place is to be in
Someone's Prayers.

 'FEAR' has 2 Meanings:
1: Forget Everything & Run.
&
2: Face Everything & Rejoice.
Choice is Ours.

ATTITUDE at its Best:
"My BACK is not a VOICE MAIL.
Kindly Say whatever U have by FACING ME".

What is SUCCESS ?
SUCCESS is, when Ur Photo's are Uploaded on 'GOOGLE' instead of FACEBOOK.

 'EGO' is the only Requirement
to Destroy any Relationship.
Be a Bigger Person,
Skip the 'E' & let it 'GO'.

 Do U know why God did not give Us
the Gift to Read Other's Mind ?
So that, We could have the Chances to
'TRUST' & Privilege to be 'TRUSTED'.

 As long as We do not Forgive People
who have Hurt Us,
They Occupy a 'RENT-FREE-SPACE'
in our Mind.

 Always keep Hoping for Good.
Keep a Green Tree in Ur Heart.
The Singing Birds will Automatically come.

If U Walk the Way guided by Humans,
U will find a Hopeless End.
BUT
If U will Walk the Way guided by GOD,
U will find Endless Hopes & Opportunities.

GOD always likes to know again & again
what U want.
It is not that He Forgets Ur
Dreams & Prayers,
But He Loves to Check Ur Passion
towards Ur Desire.
That is why He wants U to have Ur
'QUIET TIME' which We call as
'PRAYER TIME' with Him everyday.

 I asked GOD: If everything is already Written in Destiny,
then why should I Pray ?
GOD Smiled & said: I have also Written
'CONDITIONS APPLY'.

 Empty Pockets Teach

Millons of Things in Life

BUT

Full Pockets Spoil Us in Million Ways.

TRUST is like a Sticker.
Once it is Removed, it may Stick again,
but not as Strong as it Holds
when U First Applied.

 Always take Care of RELATIONS.
Thats why they say, when U are in Doubt,
'SILENCE' is the Best Policy.

 Never Win People with Arguments.
rather Defeat Them with Ur Smile.
Because People who always Wish to
Argue with U, cannot Bear Ur SILENCE.

 If a Drop of Water falls on a Lake,
its Identity is Lost.
BUT
If a Drop of Water falls on a Lotus Leaf,
it Shines like a Pearl.
Drop is the Same,
but the 'COMPANY' matters.

Our HOPES should be like HAIR & NAILS.
No matter how many times they get Cut,
but they never stop Growing.
That is why they say,
Always Hope for the Best,
however Bad the Situation may be.

 'MEMORIES' are always Special.
Sometimes, We Laugh by
Remembering the days We Cried.
&
Sometimes, We Cry by
Remembering the days We Laughed.
That's LIFE!! ;)

Superb Speech by Chetan Bhagat at Symbiosis...

Don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. 
Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order. There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions. Don't take life seriously. Life is not meant to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a prepaid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? …It's OK, 
Bunk few classes, score low in couple of papers, take leave from work, fall in love, fight a little with ur spouse... It's ok... We are people, not programmed devices..! 
"Don't be serious, enjoy Life as it comes"

Men vs Women...

Looking at the feedback of the previous article to write about women too, I thought why not differentiate between the two sexes based on how they react to different situations!

1. MULTI-TASKING-Women - Multiple process-Women's brain's designed to concentrate multiple task at a time.Women can Watch a TV and Talk over phone and cook. Men - Single Process-Men's brain's designed to concentrate only one work at a time. Men can not watch TV and talk over the phone at the same time. They stop the TV while Talking. They can either watch TV or talk over the phone or cook.

2. LANGUAGE-Women can easily learn many languages. But can not find solutions to problems. Men can not easily learn languages, they can easily solve problems. That's why in average a 3 years old girl has three times higher vocabulary than a 3 year old boy.

3. ANALYTICAL SKILLS-Men's brains has a lot of space for handling the analytical process. They can analyze and find the solution for a process and design a map of a building easily. But If a complex map is viewed by women, they can not understand it. Women can not understand the details of a map easily, For them it is just a dump of lines on a paper.

4. CAR DRIVING.While driving a car, mans analytical spaces are used in his brain. He can drive a car fastly. If he sees an object at long distance, immediately his brain classifies the object (bus or van or car) direction and speed of the object and he drives accordingly. Where woman take a long time to recognize the object direction/ speed. Mans single process mind stops the audio in the car (if any), then concentrates only on driving.

5. LYING-When men lie to women face to face, they get caught easily. Women's super natural brain observes facial expression 70%, body language 20% and words coming from the mouth 10%. Mens brain does not have this. Women easily lie to men face to face.So guys, do not lie face to face.

6. PROBLEMS SOLVING-If a man have a lot of problems, his brain clearly classifies the problems and puts them in individual rooms in the brain and then finds the solution one by one. You can see many guys looking at the sky for a long time. If a woman has a lot of problems, her brain can not classify the problems. she wants some one to hear that. After telling everything to a person she goes happily to bed. She does not worry about the problems being solved or not.

7. WHAT THEY WANT-Men want status, success, solutions, big process, etc... But Women want relationship, friends, family, etc...

8. UNHAPPINESS-If women are unhappy with their relations, they can not concentrate on their work. If men are unhappy with their work, they can not concentrate on the relations.

9. SPEECH-Women use indirect language in speech. But Men use direct language.

10. HANDLING EMOTION-Women talk a lot without thinking. Men act a lot without thinking.