Weirdness.....

Life is weird. People are weird.

People first get bored being children. they long to grow up. But when they finally do, they long to be kids again. People work all the life, not caring about their health ;then in the later part of their life, spend all their hard earned money to restore their health. People worry only about their future day in and day out, forgetting their present. And such people just end up living neither in the past nor in the future. People live as though they will never bid farewell to this temporary rat trap world. And they die as though, they never lived in this world. Pathetic!

Why don't people just understand that they cannot make anyone love them! That they can only try to be a person who can be loved and let themselves be loved. And to not compare themselves to others. They are made special, unique, different from the others. Why don't they understand that just shouting peace wouldn't help! We gotta work together for it. We should learn how to forgive by practicing forgiveness.Why do people fail to realize that it takes only seconds and just a word to give a profound wounds to someone he/she loves and it can take ages to heal them. Why don't people understand that money is not everything and a rich person doesn't always have everything or who has the most. But in fact a rich person is just the one who needs the least. Why don't people realize that there are many people around them who love them dearly; may be not not the way they want but not necessarily meaning that they don't with everything they have. And the fact that they ain't just able to show them out or express them out. Its high time that people realize that just because the person in front of you doesn't appreciate your ideas or views isn't because he/she doesn't like it. But in fact many a times it happens that two people look at exactly the same thing but still manage to see differently.

And most of all, just forgiving others isn't always what is important. Sometimes what is more important is to forgive oneself. Have faith. Breathe. Let it go. Mistakes do happen. What are we humans for?

And finally, always remember that there is one God who is all watching, all knowing, all caring, Who knows even the deepest secrets of yours. Who has the idea of each pain you are undergoing through. He knows what is better for you and what is not. If your prayers ain't being answered then keep calm and have faith. Probably that thing you are asking for isn't something that is good for you at all. May even prove be fatal to you. Probably you deserve something way better. Always remember when God takes something form your which you loved dearly, its just that He is emptying your hands to give something better, something that you must have never imagined. After all, God tests the bravest of His soldiers with the toughest of the challenges.

Take each problem and happiness in your life as test. Live, love and enjoy life. It's too short to keep grudges.

Hence justified the title of my blog too ;)

Don't wait....Just DO IT! You never know.........

As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant.

It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.

Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners... he is a joy to be around.."

His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."

His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."

Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper That he got from a grocery bag Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume.. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left, she cried for at least an hour.

On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets.."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling* her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer.... The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.

Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.

They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for* believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

(For you that don't know, Teddy Stoddard is the Dr. at Iowa Methodist Hospital in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)

Warm someone's heart today. . . pass this along. I love this story so very much, I cry every time I read it. Just try to make a difference in someone's life today? tomorrow? Just "do it".

Random acts of kindness, I think they call it?

The four letter word L-I-F-E....

Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many people you call or how many of them you have dated, or dating or haven't dated at all. It's not about whom you've kissed, which sport you play, which girl or guy likes you. It's not about which task you've pending, whom you've got to meet next, whom you've you've chatted, how many statuses you've uploaded or never did. Its not about which brand do you use, which shoes you wear, which color hair you have or which skin color you show, or how many clothes you have. It's not about which college or school has accepted you either. Life isn't about how big your friend circle is or how many friends appreciate you or even ever did. Life isn't about figuring other's life and their problems and their short comings. Life isn't just about that!

But in fact, life is about whom you love and whom you hurt. It's all about how you feel about yourself, about how much you realize as to how special you are. It's about love, faith, compassion and happiness. It's about sticking up with your friends and replacing your hatred with love, no matter how tough it gets to be. Life is about overcoming ignorance, avoiding jealousy and building confidence. It's about what you say and how much you mean them. It's about seeing the people as to what they are and not what they have or even how much for that matter. And most of all, it's about touching the lives of other people around you in a manner that must have never been achieved otherwise. It's about loving others for their one good, no matter how many bad must be there in them. Life is about putting a smile even during the darkest hours of the life. Cm'on, after all the sun rises only after the darkest hours of the night. Right?

~Fareeha Arshad

When I found the key to success, somebody did manage to change the locks!

Marry the right person. I tell you, this one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

Work at something that you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent. Most of us from middle class family. And I agree to most of us, having material landmarks is a big achievement. Yeah, its not bad to dream and work on getting them either. But frankly speaking, it shouldn't become the purpose of life altogether. If that was the case, Mukesh Ambani Sir would never turn up for his work. Imran Khan would stay at home and not dance any more. Steve Jobs wouldn't work hard just to make a better iPhone, as he would have Pixar for billions of dollars. Think guys, why do they do it? What makes them come for work everyday? They do so only because it makes them happy. Just getting better from current levels feels great. They don't do it only for money. Cm'on you can't imagine Salman Khan taking the place of Sachin Tendulkar or for that matter Karan Kundra taking the place of Bill Gates. People are born with their talent and they feel great about just doing that! You can feel safe and special only in your skin, I guarantee you about that!

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. You really gotta agree to one fact, no matter how cheerful the person in front of you may seem, its not always that case. More often than quite not, that person is into deeper pain than you can even imagine. Never underestimate anyone's current situations and problems. No one under the sun is tension free. Everyone has their pains to life to deal with. They have life full of chaos to overcome but still they do manage to put a smile on the face. That one is a real winner.

Become the most positive and enthusiast person you ever came across. It helps, trust me it does! I know it's not easy when you have millions of problems in every field of your life, but as it is the world has enough pessimists. Sharing a positive thought with the people around does affect your life too. It makes you too feel happier and more cheerful. I agree, there are times when the people around turn the things around that you feel the one at fault, you start blaming yourself for everything and current situations, feel guilty and start apologizing for stuffs that you must have never done..Relax!! Breathe in and breathe out. Think. Some people can't just bare how awesome you are. Stop being a pessimist. People come and people. Their job is to say and your job is to listen. Let it go. Chuck 'em. Be happy and try spreading happiness.

If life gives 10 reasons for you to cry. Give life 100s of reasons to smile. Did you ever think you have at least of square meals per day while there are billions of babies and children dying out of hunger? Did you ever think while you are starving yourself to loose weight, there are people who are dying out of starvation not because they want to loose weight but because they have no access to any meal for weeks! A mother has to think and over think to breast feed which child while the other just....closes the eyes forever.

Think! At the very moment, there is a child going to bed hungry. A woman is being tortured and raped. Someone is on the death bed and regretting some of the deeds of his/her lifetime. People are having their houses bombed. Kids crying, running after the dead bodies of their parents....Unimaginable! 

Guys, learn to thank your present situations. Learn to thank God for everything that He has given you, many of which you can't deny.

And lastly I would like to say, be bold and courageous. Take your chance. Go behind every possible opportunity as the only one. Because when you will look behind on your life, there will be more things that you would regret as of not doing than those which you already did. What is done is done! It's a past. Remember, no amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of worry can ever change the future. 

Learn to live again. Love again. And be yourself again. Things happen. I agree, there are ups and downs, Cm'on that is how it's supposed to be! Life is like a heart beat. If there are no ups and downs, what is the point? The person just passes away. Try to understand, that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but rather on the relationships with the people whom you love and respect. Learn to forgive people around you and most importantly, learn to forgive your own self.

I would like to conclude my article with a short story. Once I noticed a street dog outside my house being teased away by the neighborhood kids as he hunted for scraps of food. Nobody loved him. It would literally make no difference if he did not exist. Yet the dog wasn't trotting of to the grocery shop or something. He was only trying to figure out his strategy for his next meal. And when he was full, he merely curled up in a corner with one eye open, not giving a damn to the world. That is the natures way of protecting the animals. Their way of surviving and living and most of all being happy.

 If the street dogs don't give up, then there seems no reason why we, the smart species should? Make sense right?


~Fareeha Arshad

Happy Mother's Day.....Each Day is a Mother's day! :)

A CHILD'S ANGEL

Once upon a time there was a child ready to be born. So one day he asked God:

"They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?"

"Among the many angels, I chose one for you. She will be waiting for you and will take care of you."

"But tell me, here in Heaven, I don't do anything else but sing and smile, that's enough for me to be happy."

"Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you every day. And you will feel your angel's love and be happy."

"And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me, if I don't know the language that men talk?"

"Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak."

"And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?"

"Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray."

"I've heard that on earth there are bad men. Who will protect me?"

"Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life."

"But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore."

"Your angel will always talk to you about me and will teach you the way for you to come back to me, even though I will always be next to you."

At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from earth could already be heard, and the child in a hurry asked softly:

"Oh God, if I am about to leave now, please tell me my angel's name."

"Your angel's name is of no importance, you will call your angel,
"Mommy."

Ya do explain me when u say, "I want a relationship with you"....

What is a relationship? 
Wait, is the word "relationship" even in the dictionary anymore? Are relationships even a thing anymore? Does anyone even care anymore to get to know someone? 
It actually makes me so sad that we as a society have forgotten what relationships actually stood for in the past. Now a days, we go to clubs, get drunk, hook up with people we have never met in our life. Funny thing is, no one sees anything wrong with that because the media has brainwashed us to believe that "sex" is a great thing. Every movie you watch, hollywood or bollywood, women are displayed as objects. This happens even more in the music industry. Every bollywood song consists of displaying women as a piece of meat that dances for your pleasure. All these singers, such as Lil wayne, Chris brown, Drake, they all have half naked women in all their music videos but WE don't see anything wrong with it because we are brainwashed to believe that this is how our society actually works. All these little factors have a huge impact on the relationship aspect that I am going to talk about. Lets look at some facts, as years are passing by, the divorce rates in almost all countries are just increasing extremely high because relationships are starting to lose their value. 
Remember back in the days how a guy would actually take a girl out for a date? That is a how a real gentleman would do something but that is so rare now a days. The main reason of this is also through social media such as facebook and twitter. It is so easy to get in touch with people through these social networks and so easy to lie to someone just to hook up with them. Whenever someone is in a relationship, we still feel that the attention we get from facebook or twitter is more important than the attention we get from our significant other. Facebook and Twitter are like two fake crowds of people that make us believe that we can easily find someone else for a relationship. Instead of trying to fix our problems with our partner, we just break the relationship and move on. 
The only reason why most of our parents are still together is because they lived through a non-brainwashing generation. They knew that whenever a problem occurred, they would talk to each other and not just call off the relationship.

 At the rate of how bad our society is becoming regarding relationships, I doubt marriages will even exist in the future.

Infact, why even date without the intentions of marriage? I know we all r young n etc. But all people do is date and just eventually break up. Guys! Get a life!...

If people can use "LOL" without even laughing, surely they can use "I love you" without even loving so don't be fooled...

That Indeed Is Life ;)

Never Share Ur Secrets with Anyone.
This can be Self-Destructive,
Perhaps the most Important Advice in Life.

 Never Tell Ur Problems to Anyone.
20% will not Care
&
80% will be Glad that U have Them.

Life is similar to Boxing Game.
Defeat is not Declared when U Fall Down.
It is Declared when U Refuse to Get Up.

Always WRONG PERSONS Teach the
RIGHT LESSONS in Life.
That is called LIFE EXPERIENCE.

Faith is taking the 1st Step,
even when U haven't see the whole Staircase.

 Keep Ur Face to the Sun,
& U will not see the Shadow.

Everything is Valuable only at 2 Times:
1: Before Getting It.
&
2: After Losing It.

 2 Things brings Happiness & Success
in Life:
1: The way U Manage
when U have Nothing.
&
2: The way U Behave
when U have Everything.

 2 Places are most Valuable in the World:
1: The NICEST Place is to be in
Someone's Thoughts.
&
2: The SAFEST Place is to be in
Someone's Prayers.

 'FEAR' has 2 Meanings:
1: Forget Everything & Run.
&
2: Face Everything & Rejoice.
Choice is Ours.

ATTITUDE at its Best:
"My BACK is not a VOICE MAIL.
Kindly Say whatever U have by FACING ME".

What is SUCCESS ?
SUCCESS is, when Ur Photo's are Uploaded on 'GOOGLE' instead of FACEBOOK.

 'EGO' is the only Requirement
to Destroy any Relationship.
Be a Bigger Person,
Skip the 'E' & let it 'GO'.

 Do U know why God did not give Us
the Gift to Read Other's Mind ?
So that, We could have the Chances to
'TRUST' & Privilege to be 'TRUSTED'.

 As long as We do not Forgive People
who have Hurt Us,
They Occupy a 'RENT-FREE-SPACE'
in our Mind.

 Always keep Hoping for Good.
Keep a Green Tree in Ur Heart.
The Singing Birds will Automatically come.

If U Walk the Way guided by Humans,
U will find a Hopeless End.
BUT
If U will Walk the Way guided by GOD,
U will find Endless Hopes & Opportunities.

GOD always likes to know again & again
what U want.
It is not that He Forgets Ur
Dreams & Prayers,
But He Loves to Check Ur Passion
towards Ur Desire.
That is why He wants U to have Ur
'QUIET TIME' which We call as
'PRAYER TIME' with Him everyday.

 I asked GOD: If everything is already Written in Destiny,
then why should I Pray ?
GOD Smiled & said: I have also Written
'CONDITIONS APPLY'.

 Empty Pockets Teach

Millons of Things in Life

BUT

Full Pockets Spoil Us in Million Ways.

TRUST is like a Sticker.
Once it is Removed, it may Stick again,
but not as Strong as it Holds
when U First Applied.

 Always take Care of RELATIONS.
Thats why they say, when U are in Doubt,
'SILENCE' is the Best Policy.

 Never Win People with Arguments.
rather Defeat Them with Ur Smile.
Because People who always Wish to
Argue with U, cannot Bear Ur SILENCE.

 If a Drop of Water falls on a Lake,
its Identity is Lost.
BUT
If a Drop of Water falls on a Lotus Leaf,
it Shines like a Pearl.
Drop is the Same,
but the 'COMPANY' matters.

Our HOPES should be like HAIR & NAILS.
No matter how many times they get Cut,
but they never stop Growing.
That is why they say,
Always Hope for the Best,
however Bad the Situation may be.

 'MEMORIES' are always Special.
Sometimes, We Laugh by
Remembering the days We Cried.
&
Sometimes, We Cry by
Remembering the days We Laughed.
That's LIFE!! ;)